Monday, March 27, 2017

The Crazy Girlfriend

Emotions Running Wild


I believe it is essential to keep in mind the importance of averting gender essentialism while referring to situations involving gendered assumptions while reading this post. In my personal experience, avoiding gender essentialism, there have been stereotypes involved within my own personal romantic relationships. Male identified persons within my own relationships have felt as if they do not have to put in the same emotional involvement as their women identified partners (me) in their heterosexual relationships. The male identified persons in my own experience have talked about how they believe that women are the “emotional” partners. Stating that since they are men, they do not need to verbalize their emotions within the relationship, implying that is strictly the woman’s job. These ideals within my past experiences have created strains within my relationships due to a result of a lack of two-way communication. In my own personal encounters, I have heard multiple comments about how women’s emotions are viewed as “crazy” or “unjustified”. As a consequence of these stereotypical views about women in relationships, it can becomes impossible for women’s emotions to be viewed as rational at all. #emotionscount

Socialized From The Beginning


 I consider the role of socialization as prevalent in portraying these stereotypical thoughts that my male counterparts have expressed. Throughout the years many, but not all, women have been depicted as emotional driven beings. These depictions have been expressed throughout social interactions, the media and other forms of communication. From the moment individuals are born they are exposed to these views. 

Widespread Representations Through The Media


I believe the role of the media has been a producer of the ideas of gender difference. This has created the false image of the ways women behave within relationships. There are many videos on the internet portraying women as emotional and crazy within relationships while males are viewed as the stable, sane counterparts.


It is incredibly easy to find videos on social media that portray women in a way that can make them seem in-superior. Simply by typing “crazy girlfriend” into search engines many results pop up.


The video 5 Tips for Overcoming Crazy Girl Emotions by Girl Defined, is a video made by two women giving tips to other women about 5 techniques that will help women control their crazy “girl” emotions. Throughout the video the women express the need to advert the emotions women feel as they are unnecessary. Find the link for the video here:



The media is also filled with pictures or memes depicting women as irrational beings in relationships incapable of controlling their emotions.









Intersectional Understanding

Intersectionality is viewed as, “rooted in Black feminism and Critical Race Theory, intersectionality is a method and a disposition, a heuristic and analytic tool,” (Carbado, D., Crenshaw, K., Mays, V., & Tomlinson, B., 2013, pg. 303). I believe intersectionality can be used to view how multiple forms of oppression have played a drastic position in the way women identified persons are viewed and treated within heterosexual relationships. In many aspects of life, some women are portrayed in a stereotypical way. I believe intersectionality can be used to critically examine the role of the media, stereotypes, and gendered perceptions in the way women are viewed within heterosexual relationships as being crazy and emotional. #multiplecauses #donotjudgeabookbyitscover


Reference


Carbado, D., Crenshaw, K., Mays, V., & Tomlinson, B. (2013). INTERSECTIONALITY: Mapping the Movements of a Theory. Du Bois Review: Social Science Research on Race, 10(2), 303-312. doi:10.1017/S1742058X13000349

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